“Our relationship of all kind
are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand
remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze lightly to hold
on, the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it but
most of it will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely with respect and
freedom for the other person, it is like to remain intact. But hold too
tightly, too possessively and the relationship slips away and is lost”
Kaleel Jamison
I am neither a scholar nor an adept who is
significantly qualified to generate issues on such social theories. Yet, within
the scope of my own telescopic understanding, I love brushing my feelings on the
walls of such focus.
Relations are often taken for granted. Many of
us like being loved and cared for yet, we fail to realize that we are loved and
cared for only when we do the same to others. Basically, we heard of Confucius, a Chinese
thinker who was never mistaken to say, “Do
unto others as you wish to be done unto you” but we often overlook it.
In a working organization, relation keeping is
like an art. It is one skill that is predominantly imperative. I always learnt
that good relations bloom when ‘WE’ is more concerned than ‘I’. However, as an unenlightened
social creature, when working in groups, it takes a natural turn that whenever
we fail to achieve a purpose we accuse others as a cause. There stands a point
of ‘WE and I’ interference that is absolutely detrimental to the health of a
good relationship.
A fine relation is a voyage in the same ship. Either
safely landing at the other shore or losing lives due to wreckage is a common
question that we have to face together. If one drowns, there’s no question that the other will float.
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| Preparing to drown or reach the other shore all together |
Preparations are intimately readied in the union
to achieve a common end. Failing and success isn’t a thing of concern but
working together is.
It is noteworthy to remember the following
note but the source is still unknown. In a good relationship, we need to have:
1.
Faith:
2.
Trust and
3.
Hope
Once all the decided to pray for rain, on the day of prayer all
people agreed and one boy came with an umbrella. That’s faith.
Example of the feeling of a one year old baby. When you throw
him in the air, he laughs because he knows you will catch him. That’s trust.
Every night we go to bed, we have no assurance to wake up alive
the next morning but still we set an alarm for tomorrow. That’s hope.
