Sex is Everywhere

Sex is everywhere. It has noticeably invaded the public square than ever before. Music is sexually toned while the music videos are highly galvanized with sexually explicit content. Songs postulated to produce quixotic flavour are genetically mutated with degrading lyrics that would either objectify feminism or reify the supremacy of masculinity. Advertisements and endorsements are increasingly becoming the brothels of obscenity by the growing use of immodest sexual imagery believed to elicit sexual responses and in so doing invite consumers. And almost intolerably, sex has developed itself into a language of social media that is understood by the culture of any origin.

While sex has openly colonized practically almost every sphere of human space, it has undoubtedly remained injured after the collision of numerous existing cultural and religious taboos in discussing it within a family circle. Restrictions of these measures are highly detrimental that the adolescents are often risked to gather misconstrued knowledge and irrelevant myths from various sources that may be passed down to the generations.     

Attending the National Seminar on Combating Sexual Violence for a Better Society as one of the speakers, I have learnt that comprehensive sexuality education has to take roots initially at our own home. When the children are bathed with the information on sexuality and reproductive health during that crucial period of transition from childhood to adolescents, its reinforcement later in the educational institutions like schools and colleges can advantage them in making healthy decisions regarding their physiological and psychological wellbeing.

The presenters of the seminar held at Samtse College of Education

Parents are accounted as one of the most reliable influential socializing agents that can shape adolescents sexual behaviour, minimize sexual risks and realize the potentials of adolescents becoming sexually responsible. Empirical studies have revealed that the adolescents exposed to early introduction of sexuality education are potentially impacted with positive knowledge, sexual beliefs and attitudes, delay early sexual debut and gather skills to overcome sexual health risks.

However, despite shreds of evidence that it is imperative and beneficial, information on sexuality education is largely inaccessible and often limited to the discussion within our family premises. Because it is so delicate and sensitive in nature, many parents shy away and nonetheless find it daunting. Literature has it that some parents fear encouraging early sexual experimentation by triggering sexual curiosity if open discussions on sexuality are initiated by them to the children.

But this is not true because early parental interventions during adolescence regarding sexuality education, even if the teen has not yet encountered sexual experience is worthy in fostering adolescents sexual maturity. As parents initiate sex education to their children at a tender age, when the time grows, it would be easier to extend involving the entire family members. By then, talking about reproductive issues would be serious family stuff and nothing else. Also, parents shouldering responsibilities such as these can largely help the educators in the schools to share the responsibility in generating productive citizens. And the productive citizens whose education is sound not only in terms of academics but as well as reproductive issues can save the government coffers in millions specifically in a nation like ours where education and health amenities are provided for free of cost.

Nonetheless, materials of this sort may not have been realized if Samtse College of Education financially supported by the UNFPA, Bhutan, did not offer me the privilege to conclude my manuscript and present it. Not only have I learnt a lot, but my social circles also expanded after interacting with scholars from RUB colleges, UNFPA, RENEW, lawyers, NGOs and the teacher trainees. So, I am immensely grateful to these institutions. 

Thank you Ms Kinley Seday for the encouragement and support rendered beyond measure. No adjective can suffice to describe the inspiration you gave me in making me travel a journey thus far. Also thank you Ms Bijoy Hangmo Subba for the succinct and timely email correspondence.

“Parents aren’t sex education experts just because they are parents” – Pepper Schwarty.    

Dr Sonam Rinchen welcomed the participants

Mr Kezang Namgay speaking on Buddhist Spiritual Perspective on Sexuality

Mrs Karma Chhoden speaking on LGBTI as an Emerging Discourse in Bhutan

Mr Ugyen Norbu speaking on Implication of Sexuality Education

Mr Ugyen Phuntsho presenting on Prevalence of Sexual Behavior in Trongsa District.

Presenting my findings on adolescents perception of parental communication about sexuality

Mr Jangchuk Dorji, a Legal Officer presenting sexual violence based on legal perspectives

Receiving the certificate from the Resident Officer, UNFPA, Bhutan,       Mr Yeshey Dorji

Dr Tashi Gyeltshen during the wrap-up session of the seminar