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Sunday, April 20, 2014

E is for Excusitis



For the last few days, I had been seriously suffering from an incessant cough of Paralysis Analysis. Due to its inevitable outbreak that prevailed for quite a longer span of time, I had to seal off even several of my professional works inside the envelope of procrastination.
It was terribly tough to grow under such circumstances, though I managed to break off its trouble-cocoon eventually. I found that when the load of works accumulated over the yoke of my brain and when all the works walked together to shake their hands with the dateline, it caused irresistible irritation and suffocation in my mind. The entire organs of my mind starts to get frozen, its hand become unstable and its eyeball rotate its circumference looking for the short cuts to complete all the works at once.
One such work was the preparation of the Conceptual Test Questions for my research proposal. The questions will help in my study designed to investigate the Bhutanese students’ understanding of the some Physics concepts.
But however, before I implement those questions, I needed some Bhutanese teachers to take a role of an expert to validate and verify whether those questions possess a right kind of muscle to realize the set research objectives and questions.
To fulfill this formality, I floated the requests to ten friends of mine who already have rich experiences in teaching Physics for Middle and Higher Secondary School students. I dropped an explicitly long and humble messages into their inbox explaining every detail and was patiently waiting for their responses.
Fortunately, to save me from being dejected and wretched, a friend known by the name Rinchen Choden (M.Sc.) from a remote school managed to return my questions with her job done. I thanked her with all my heart for taking pain because she was the one who happened to fulfill my dreams despite herself being ONLY the one who does not have wifi facilities. A friend in need was a friend indeed, she proved. 
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But for rest of them, it was awfully miserable and wrong to expect that they would do it for me. Actually I had reasons to wait and expect because, few of them have written to help me while some boasted of getting it almost ready. However that ready never gave birth.
Since I had no time to wait and was already delayed for my preparation, I was compelled to inquire whether they have completed my requests. And even at this hour, few of them still continued to write me, “Don’t worry buddy. It’s almost getting ready”. But that ‘ready’ did not happen even today after my presentations were over.  
Having survived this dreadful event, I realized that it is never too good to expect too much from one’s own friends. However, I was disturbed by the fact whether they knew that we were suffering from Shiv Khera’s so-called “Excusitis”. People who are victims of excusitis always procrastinate their work by saying that ‘they are getting ready’ and after few days later they are still getting ready and few months later they are still getting ready.
People who suffers from excusitis keeps on making excuses. Excuses are the like a cabbage to me. We may be able to hide one with another like a leaf of the cabbage but as we peel it off one by one, that smallest embryo of excuses is found eventually.

     “He slept beneath the moon

      He basked beneath the sun

     He lived a life of going to do
     and died with nothing done” - James Albery

18 comments:

  1. lol
    Procrastination is the thief of time :)
    Relax :)

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    1. Procrastination is thief of the time but this thief keeps on stealing my time. I am afraid that one day I might become so immune to it.
      Thank you Rajiv for visiting my page. I will find a time to visit yours too.

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  2. Putting too much expectation on a person can be source of sadness and rejection in many cases. You have got it. Keep going though. All the best of luck.

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    1. For many years back, some of them were my childhood friends. But as our life started on its own course, many have dropped from my social circle. This is so sad and when they didn't appear in the times of need, it was even more painful.

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  3. Thanks for finally talking about > "E is for Excusitis" < Loved it!

    my site - link

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    1. Thank you for leaving the comments. I am humbled though I could not log into your page. Thanks.

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  4. I tend to procrastinate when the task is unpleasant. I like the word "excusitis". Seems like you've dropped out of The A-Z Challenge...better luck next year!
    Thanks for following Life is Good. I've followed you back.
    Tina @ Life is Good
    A to Z Team @ Blogging From A to Z April Challenge 2014

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    1. It is sad to narrate about this incident. That moment when I was awake of so-called A-Z challenge, the game of writing has already gained a full momentum. It has reached to letter G. I was disheartened. But, under its banner, I thought of completing my writings in a similar pattern. Thanks to A-Z challenge for the idea.
      Since I am undergoing a post graduate studies currently, it is very much difficult to make a point of updating my blog. Yet, i am trying my best to update it. I will make sure that it follows the footsteps of the A-Z challenge.

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  5. Yes...makes you think, doesn't it?
    It is always a mistake to expect too much from others...sadly, I have made that exact mistake too many times in my life.
    And as for "Excusitis"...well, I think we have all been there at some time or another. It seems easier to procrastinate when things get on top of us, but then we find later that it would have been much easier in the long run to have just done the thing we were trying to put off.

    I think you are doing just fine...probably much better than most of us!

    A fabulous write, Dumcho! :)

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    1. I was always told that it take years to trust and keep faith in relationships. That was truly said but I have not paid any heed. I always believed that my friends would come to rescue me at this hour when I was already under the academic hassle. But I was wrong to have believed this. They were a true fair weather friends for me now.
      Thank you for your comments as always.

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  6. Hi Dumcho-new follower via IWSG. Love the quote--great way to top off your post!

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    1. Thank you Rani Lee. Even if I am not able to write well, I make a point to add some wonderful quotes so that I can also learn as much as others do too. Thank you.

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  7. HI, I enjoyed reading this post. Yes we have a variety of friends :)
    http://www.ananyatales.com

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    1. Glad that you happened to drop to my site. I am encourage when a prominent writers like you drop some comments on my site. Thank you so much.

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  8. I am so happy that you have survived the 'dreadful' event despite your fair weather friends' refusal to co-operate Dumcho :) That is a good thing! Don't be too angry with your friends as sometimes it is easier to suffer excusitis than to say 'no' to a friend in desperate need. Perhaps they did want to help but found themselves unable to do the task or perhaps the timeline was not too clear to them or perhaps they had their own problems to sort out:) I too suffer excusitis trying to find excuses for my friends' unwillingness to lend a hand when I
    believe I am the only one with too much to do and too little time to do it in.
    A great post and I love how you compared excuses to a cabbage! Brilliant dear friend.

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    1. Thank you Rose for your generous and beautiful comments on my post. I am also grateful for your wonderful advices.
      I have realized the same thing though but I was dreadfully hurt when the whole things remained mute until it was the time for my presentation. I have decided to forgive them because they have done same to me. As you pointed out, they might have been involved with their own matters that was just inevitable. However, to me I just wanted to know whether they could be able to do it. Anyways, my terrible presentation is now over. I am glad I survived. Thank you for your prayers. I am so indebted. Thank you for visiting my page time and again.
      I love reading your posts too and more than that I love reading your critical comments on every post of mine.

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    2. Oh Dumcho please don't take what I write as critical because it is not meant
      that way at all, merely observation on my part.

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    3. Hey Rose,
      No worry please. You might have misunderstood my words. Sorry English is my second language. I in fact like your comments. So sorry that I could not visit your page these days. I am kind of busy. God bless you.

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